Should Women Carry Condoms?

I'm sitting here staring at the Durex Invisible Extra Thin Extra Sensitive* condom box sitting by me and it got me thinking in my sexually active years I’ve never purchased condoms myself, I’ve either got them from friends or at a clinic where they’ll gladly hand you loads of a variety for free. I wouldn’t feel embarrassed to purchase them but I do understand for others it’s not as easy, while we live in a progressive society, you may feel those around are frowning and pre-judging a woman who is having sex and even purchasing condoms, so it’s much easier for you to expect the dude to bring one along. The difficulty of buying condoms for young adults just becomes another excuse not to use condoms.

So there you were, faced with the potential first hand embarrassment of purchasing the condoms, that you couldn’t go through with but now you’re faced with the dilemma that he doesn’t carry any because of the numerous excuses for not wearing one. It led me to ask around, what do men think of women who carry condoms (whether on their person or have them in their home) & asking women, if they feel comfortable to purchase and do some carry or leave it up to the man.

Q. Men, How do you feel about women who carry condoms?

"I don't like the idea of a woman possessing condoms. It exposes her true intent as a woman. Like, all you wanna do is get fucked? I admire the safety precaution but its the mans job to carry. No woman should carry! If he doesn't have one then, no fuck for him...I don't believe women should possess male condoms."

"It is very responsible of a woman to look out for her own safety and not rely on a man in that department BUT as a man you're responsible for your own safety so carry your own boots (condoms) cos if the boots have hole you gonna end up with cold feet when she's expecting or you gotta go clinic cos things aren't moving correct."

"I honestly never knew a woman that carried them around, maybe had them in the top drawer though... Which I think is good. But in the purse I honestly think it's suspect lol. I like to buy and use my own either way...Don't trust them."

"That's good, it shows you're responsible."

"Don't have one, stay protected, alie? Unless she was wifey & I'm not using condoms, I'd wonder why she's got them"

"Umm, that they practice safe safe and I guess that they're pretty loose too, man. To be carrying it you're preparing to be in that position to use it, indirectly similar to those who carry weapons but obviously not as extreme...having them at home is regular. Even if she went out to meet her partner, still regular...But to have it for having it sake on her person sends the wrong kind of message."

"It's not a bad thing. Like I might not necessarily go out expecting to go back home with someone. Hypothetically of course. But at least if I know I'm not taking a risk with my life. In many European countries women carry condoms so it's perspective and education. I'd be more concerned if a female said 'I'm clean and I trust you to be the same.' "

"For someone trusted not a bad thing at all. If you can trust someone and you want to link them it's your business but definitely equal opportunity. Man should carry and women should supply."


Q. Ladies: Do you feel comfortable purchasing condoms?

"I'd rather be purchasing condoms than a morning after pill."

"I've got no problem buying condoms."

"Yes, I would feel comfortable purchasing condoms."

"I have no problem buying anything sexual...call me bold but if I want to buy it...I'm a grown arse woman. I have condoms at home and won't feel no way to tell a man to put this on if it comes down to it. I don't carry them in my purse personally but I have done in the past and when it was pulled out it was received negatively...but saying that a woman should take precautions about her sexual health. A man should defo have them ready if it comes down to it. Works both ways!"

"I'd rather be purchasing condoms than a morning after pill."

"Safety first, women buying condoms, what's wrong with that?"

"You can swing an Ann Summers bag around proudly, shopping for condoms isn't a problem!"

"I don't buy them in a store but I will order them online."

Q. Do you carry condoms or leave it up to the man?

"I think both should be in the possession of them."

"I have some at home but not in my damn purse like I'm going out looking to get randomly laid."

"I don't lol. I always expect the man to have them BUT if he doesn't things aren't running until they are got!"

"Personally if a female is carrying them, she values her sexual health even if she is out sexing randomly."


My overall view is this: ladies, purchasing & having condoms should be like a political statement! There’s a terrible misconception that if a woman carries condoms with her, ‘she’s up for it’ which then leads to women not wanting to look a certain way to a sexual partner. When one from the feedback mentioned the fact "it's perspective and education", it hit the nail on the head. I remember reading in Spain they offer prostitution classes, it teaches women sexual techniques, sex toys, educates them about sex, how to conduct themselves and be safe. It really is a matter of education, I don't remember being taught anywhere that it's okay for women to carry condoms but I know in my younger days I would of been concerned what someone thought & I honestly don't know where I picked that train of thought from because the me now, I wouldn't care, I'm very brazen when it comes to the subject and act. I'm an adult who is being responsible. So if some view a woman who keeps condoms on her person because she's just being safe, regardless what she is doing with her body and with whom, she should be respected that she's cautious instead of shamed. There are reasons why I feel a woman should have condoms in whatever situation, first and foremost you are looking after your well being and considering someone else's, you can't expect a man to remember, nothing is stopping you from having fun, carrying condoms is a discrete act, they're small and who's looking?

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  1. Arghhhhhhh! Those male responses have INFURIATED me. Either you interviewed a tonne of men who are total sexist pigs or my opinion of males has just taken a nose dive. As for "she's loose" or "all she wants is to get fucked"... I suppose if she's wearing a short skirt she's asking to be raped too huh? WOW, on all levels.
    Personally, I think there is no difference between a man and a woman carrying a condom. Ultimately, if you're sexually active and you want to safe guard yourself then carrying a condom is a smart choice, for both parties. Like you say, it doesn't mean you're looking for sex or intending to have sex, but if the opportunity arises then you will at least be safe.

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    1. Thanks for the response H. The "slut shaming" as it really is, I don't like it. I do feel a woman should wear what she likes but from experience I know it's not just about the clothes, some men feel entitled regardless what she is wearing. Some men make a woman feel a certain way when she's only looking out for herself and not just that but she is also thinking about others by being prepared. I do think it comes down to education and environment.

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    2. Omg, yes. I'm so angry here reading those ignorant things. Like a woman carrying condoms makes her promiscuous? What? And not them? Forever a double standard. It makes no one promiscuous, just responsible. Do you know how many stories I know of men who didn't have a condom (and the woman didn't either) and they end up having unprotected sex. When they could have had safe sex if the woman had had a condom (or the man of course, but talking about the case of women carrying them).

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  2. Lol, you know most chemist have like this little sign on them meaning you get condoms for free, much better than going to a clinic.
    Clinics i feel are for people who need help... like right now... lol like the heated sensation in my penis wont go away LAWL.
    My attitude has been: Well if you don't have them nothings going on LOL

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    1. This girl, lol the heated sensation! Ah yeah I see where you're coming from with that outlook but once again I suppose it comes right back to education, if that's what you've been taught, that's where you go. I did read that they suggest even wearing condoms to still be tested every 6 months. I didn't know about the chemist, that's really good!

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  3. The men's responses are so infuriating! Where did you find them? I'd be reevaluating my relationship with them if they're all people you know personally. What sexist bullshit, ugh.

    I carry condoms because safe sex is paramount!

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    1. Some I know, some through others. Safe sex is, I agree!

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  4. I think both women and men should carry them as its being responsible for your sexual health. The men's responses like other commenters have infuriated me.

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    1. Totally it is being responsible, I don't think women should be judged for that.

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  5. I think if ladies want to have sex, it's a good plan to carry condoms. Play safe, right!

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    1. Totally. Not a bad thing in the slightest.

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  6. I think for safety they should have some form of protection. You can't always trust the other person to have them.

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  7. VERY interesting responses! For me I think both men and women should carry condoms x

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  8. Very interesting post. I think if you're in a different city then maybe yeah - you don't know who you end up meeting. I think it better for us ladies to be prepared for anything. xx

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  9. I think it's bad that people expect men to have condoms and that women shouldn't have them. Protection is just as important for both sexes x

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  10. It's probably a good idea to have a few. You might need one. A friend might need one. You never know.

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  11. Wow that first answer is so ridiculous lol. When will people realise women enjoy sex too?

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  12. An interesting read, this. I'm so glad I'm married and on long term birth control - I don't need to worry about this problem!

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  13. OOh what annoying responses, I see absolutely no reason why we cannot, infact I think we should x

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  14. Well I think it is safe to if you think sex would happen with someone you may not be too familiar with.

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  15. some of these answers are ridiculous and single minded. regardless of gender, everyone should carry some. better safe than sorry

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  16. I guess no gender can dictate if you can bring condoms or not. It's very fine for women to carry.

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  17. Wow, I am really surprised by some of the male opinions. Of course women should carry condoms too - it's not just a man's responsibility.

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  18. It is always better to be safe than sorry isn't it!

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  19. I do think women should carry condoms, its better to be safe than sorry isn't it and it shows that you're serious about your sexual health xxx

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  20. I don't see why not, it does take two to tango after all.

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  21. Yes I used to carry condoms. Just in case :)

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