I started this task in January and it continued into February and it's becoming a habit in March. A social media detox. Some people love social media and that's perfectly fine, since about 2013 I think I've started a love / hate relationship with it. Like any person I can over indulge and use it for a few days like a crazy cat lady but then I rarely bother with it. Social media is pretty essential when you're a blogger or generally in any business. It's the quickest way to spread the word, find new friends/clients/ideas but it can also be overwhelming and mentally abusing. I know for the next few weeks I'm going to be switching off, I'm in an emotional place and the balance isn't good, social media doesn't help the feeling of being spread too thin.
"Anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on a social media website."
Social media can lead us to undervalue ourselves. The media has a way to reach us even more now, leading us to think we need things and have to look at certain way to uphold to an image. I feel it can make mental health harder to live with, you're watching things occur and it can conjure up all kinds of feelings. Never envy someone's path but don't envy your own just make it more comfortable and less anxious. Social media shows only the highlights of others’ lives, people put up their idea of the flawless image, perfect filter and ideal caption, don't feel misled. I feel it sometimes when I go on social media and anxiety can stem from any place.
Recently my phone was in the shop for a week and I was using my tablet as a phone replacement. Bad idea. Why do we feel the need to have to always share? I'm beginning to believe the research on social media, is it really validation? Probably! Every like and comment makes us feel like what we're doing is a positive thing. Sometimes it's good to just share with like minded people but I'd rather not become an over-sharer.
How do I perform my digital detox?
• Turn off Notifications.The thing about notifications are of course there a helpful feature but it also means we are controlled by the technology, not us being the ones who control the technology. As soon as a flash, sound or vibrate appears we attentively look at our phone. Decide when you'll have a time to look at these notifications, give a set time, if you're going to spend 30 minutes going through your apps notifications, stick to that.
I've set up a time on my phone when it goes on blocking mode, no notifications from a certain time to another, only notifications from priority contacts in case of an emergency. Otherwise no whatsapp, snapchat, twitter, facebook etc no notifications during this time. That means my mind has time to unwind and declutter from the day leading to a more restful night.
• Unfollow Accounts.I started with my Twitter and unfollowed a lot of accounts. Why? I don't interact with everyone, some people just spammed timelines, I followed people I had no interests with besides blogging. Maybe I'm getting to a time in life when I realise with people I interact with I want more than just a common interest, it's not enough to hold me. Thinking too deep? Maybe but if I'm not being inspired or taught anything, is it worthwhile? Yes I lost a lot of followers but that's how it goes in this social world, people follow you expecting a follow back, if not they unfollow, I'm not being valued as a number. The same went for my personal Facebook, I unliked a lot of pages, I keep my friends list quite minimal but I've always done that. Instagram was next, I did the same thing on there and yes lost followers but oh well. Do you regard yourself as someone or as another number to someone else?
Social media can either be a reflection of the person we truly are offline or the person we want to perceive to be online. However you play it, it's up to you.
• Find Accounts That Matter.Find and follow people that help your train of thought. Since I've began this transition I've started to look for more mindful / yoga / minimalism accounts and slowly unfollow those purely beauty. It's nice and all but it's just one part of me, it's not all of me. Find that balance that when you go through your social media feed there's a nice balance of interests.
• Unsubscribe.I still have emails from around 2005/2006 so in total I've got a very un- minimalistic email account amount. I've got newsletters that go between around 5 accounts. Going through these during a spare time and un-subscribing to emails slowly and steadily, you'll soon see a clearer inbox from companies you use on a regular basis that you want to keep up with. I've seen emails from companies I signed up to their newsletters in 2009 - 2010 and safe to say I didn't really care much then, so why care now?
• Switch Off.Could you spend a day without your phone? Like a Switch off Sunday? Could you switch off your technology and go back to basics and just spend time with virtual life? I notice when watching programmes even therapist suggest couples to have a no phone policy on dates. The distraction of social media can leave us looking unsocial when with people. I've done it several times, you're with someone and on your phone, looking at that, it's pretty rude and it's things that can likely wait until you're alone & free.
• Be Prepared For Temptation.It's bound to happen, when we begin something new, we tend to seek comfort back to what we are use too. Quite like a new diet, you feel tempted to eat something because you're use to it, it's a habit. Prepare yourself for this temptation with a distraction already set up. Are there tasks you've yet to do around the house, you've put off? Why not wash your hair, do your nails, read a couple of chapters of a book. How about even doing a jigsaw or play a board game! I've been wanting to do that for so long, even going on 27 I'm still encountering the only child syndrome of having no-one to play with lol! Go for a walk, take in nature, take a breather or even work out!
This post was fun to read through if you're considering if a social media detox is for you.
Bossy is a nearly nude soft shade that is an ode to Kelis
Milkshake a vibrant pink another ode to Kelis
Di La La a deep black colour formulated for Jendella, a fiery photographer, influencer & activist.
PackagingThey come in a gold cased bullet, with the logo on the side. The gold bullet makes it stand out amongst the rest of the lipstick collection. Gives it an edge, it's light weight and definitely early Hip-Hop.
PigmentationThe first day I got these and I did a hand swatch, I was talking to Lima, and swatched Bossy and it immediately broke off, I didn't have it twisted high either, just enough to swatch and it fell out the bullet. It turns out the same happened to the other 2 also. So disappointing. One thing I had noticed is I had to kind of 'break through' the outer layer of the lipstick to get the pigmentation to it's potential. Once it's broken it's soft and there's a moisturising sheen to the colour. The swatch of Milkshake you can see pink and lilac's running through. The more that's applied it begins to turn into a vibrant lilac shade. I had such high hopes for Di La La, I wanted it to be my favourite but it ended up patchy on the lips, I wanted a uniform of colour. Bossy is a wearable daily nude for a lot of us if you want to wear something on the lips that's not so in your face & others.
IngredientsRicinus Communis seed oil (castor oil), Tricaprylin, Candelilla Cera, Paraffin Triisostearin, Dimer Dilinoleyl Dimer Dilinoleate (soybean) Punica Granatum (pomegranate), Cocos Nucifera (coconut extract), Cera Alba (beeswax)
Overall ThoughtsConsidering these are £18 a pop! Which is £3.50 higher than MAC, on par with Illamasqua and £6 lower than Dior Lipsticks. It's on an established brand level. You want to feel you're getting the most for your money. When mine broke straight out of the bullet, I was disappointed and the fact I felt I had to work so hard to get pigmentation for the lipstick on my lips, felt like a pain but once I got it on, it was ok. I just had this thought that it reminded me of crayon lipstick, having to break through the formula and looking at the ingredients it's highly oil and waxed based so I can see where I drummed up that conclusion from. Unfortunately the one I had hopes for the most didn't work out as well. These are made using the latest colour technology, I don't have a clue what this technology is but it must be something the owner and creator has access to thanks to her time at the London College Of Fashion. I wouldn't rule out the brand, I will probably melt these down and depot them for convince in my lip palette to get the most out of these!
Have you tried or heard of MDMflow?
ETA : The owner of MDMflow has commented on the post below but for those reading I will insert the comment here :
"Thank's for the honest review & amazing photos, so sorry to see they all broke. I am currently reformulating and would love to replace your broken sticks once my new formula is in place. I'll get in touch via email. They are wax based as a few customers requested an all natural formula. Flow - MDMflow Founder"
This isn't something that's easy and I've still not found life balance. Although there's sometimes certain practices that can be incorporated daily to help our mind and soon to be balance. In this post I'm going to discuss a morning routine which I believe helps find a daily balance..
• Get Enough Sleep.Can we really focus with little sleep? Some people can but for myself I find that if I get at least 8 hours sleep I feel more alert for the day ahead. My sleep pattern allows me to go to bed around the same time, it's a struggle to stay up beyond 11pm unless I've probably had a long nap during the day but I then get up around the same time without an alarm which I find more beneficial as I'm awake because my body is ready to wake not because I'm being forced to wake. To get a good nights sleep, it's finding the right temperature in the room, no distractions or lights. Saying that, sometimes I fall asleep to sounds and wake up to silence.
•Avoid Looking At Your Phone.Guilty. I do it all the time, I've now moved my defunct alarm clock nearer to my bed so if I need to know the time, that's what I see first thing. Instead of reaching for my phone or tablet to check what I've missed online socially. We already know we have a list of things to do today but do we need to be put into that mind frame first thing in the morning? It can put some of us on a downer, shifting through emails and added to the list. Our mind as soon as we wake up, is probably the clearest it will be throughout the entire day.
•Make A Mindful Routine.Once we've got up, we do our regular morning routine, whatever yours is once you've got up, mines things like going to pee, brush my teeth, wash my face lol, you get the idea, those 10 minutes in the bathroom, give me 10 minutes where I can just focus on the moment, nothing further.
•Drink Warm Lemon WaterThis is what I have first thing in the morning, a cup of warm water with either a slice of lemon or squeezed lemon juice. I notice I don't feel or look as bloated when this is within my regular morning routine this drink cleanses the digestive system and gets your metabolism started.
•Meditate.They say 5 minutes is better than nothing.
Find a quiet spot, sit or lay in a comfortable position. Uncross your arms and legs, rest your hands on the top of your legs or at the side of you. Close your eyes or just focus straight ahead of you. Inhale and exhale and listen to your body. Detach your mind from thinking about anything that's causing you stress, heartache and just focus on breathing.
Breathe in. Breathe Out.
Continue this until you've done 10 rounds of that. If your mind wonders and believe me it will or you lose count, patiently stop and restart.
•Exercise.You can go into exercising after a meditation. Some people find exercise in the morning, motivating. It's another time to be exercising your mind and body at the same time. For myself when the day starts to move onwards I can find more excuses why I shouldn't do anything. As the mind isn't distracted and clear in the morning, it's easier to get into the exercising before any doubts start to creep inwards. You could try doing the Sun Salutations in the morning for 20 minutes
•Eat A Good Breakfast.Yes! The most important meal of the day. You don't want to be the 'I'm sorry for what I said when I was hungry' monster. As you've slept the body has started to re-energise and use up most the fuel from the previous day so you need to feed back into your body and keep it fuelled with a nutrient breakfast, a lot of people love porridge with fruits or granola.
•Prioritise The Day Ahead.It's very easy to worry about the future but focusing on the one day ahead will be less overwhelming. Cultivate a to-do list, not a massive one just ones that you can get done on the day. Add things such as read emails & respond, allocate a blogging slot, it could help to do this the night before so it gives you more time the next day. Always add on this to do list give time for yourself, such as a relaxing bath, bed time yoga so forth.
Not everyone wants to live by a list, I know, but I find a routine in the morning can help a gradual balance.
Do you have a morning routine?
1. RemovalI begin with removing old nail polish and oils giving me a clean base, for years I've been using the Sally Hansen Moisturising Nail Polish Remover, I have since been introduced to Fresh Therapies Natural Nail Polish Remover Wipes via TheVeganKind Beauty Box, I have noticed if my nail polish is quite thick this may need some pressure and work to get the polish off completely but it's vegan and doesn't have a bad smell.
- I then do a brightening nail soak and give it a proper clean underneath with a nail brush
2. ShapeI keep my nails more squoval and square, I have quite short nail beds so it's better for me to keep them to a shape that's manageable and doesn't snag. I use to have a glass nail file by Tweezerman I was sent years ago from the states from another blogger and I LOVED it until someone sat on it and it broke *cries* I've tried others but they just weren't the same. Therefore I've been using this Stylefile S-file which I find is good as it follows your natural nail and you don't do the sawing back and forth motion which is terrible for your nails. If I'm normally doing a shape of the nails if needed, I will keep my nail polish on, preferably dark as I can see how my nails look rather than when bear as my nailbed isn't symmetrical.
3. Cuticle RemovalPeople debate on cuticle removing and I do mention both in this post. One way is to use a cuticle remover, I have a couple that I'm sure are similar but I only really get on with the latter mentioned. Sally Hansen Gel Cuticle Remover or Instant Cuticle Remover. After my soak so the skin is still soft, I 'll apply the cuticle remover around the area, very gently and it clears up the cuticles that are growing onto the skin making it appear as if the nail is shorter. It's a gunky procedure.
4. Clean & ShapeHere's the second alternatives, Nail Clippers, I've not used these as much as I use too, I find unless this is done gently and bit by bit on the nail, I won't get too much of a wonky appearance but I prefer to now shape with a board. Orangewood Sticks, super important, I use these to push the cuticles back, clean under or around the nail if needed. Two controversial items, the V Blade Cuticle Trimmer, eeek, this can be quite deadly to the cuticles lol, sometimes they're too sharp or not as sharp and then the added pressure can just cut into the skin, sometimes it works perfectly fine but I rarely reach for these. The Cuticle Pliers are for those with a very steady hand and for those who are sure they aren't going to cut themselves, only trim the dry skin. I actually use my cuticle removers to help soften up the nail to trim the cuticles that have been growing up onto my nails.
5. BuffOnce all those steps are done before moving onto the base coat, I like to get rid of any oils once again and then buff the nail bed using the Superdry Buff & Shine Block.
6. Base CoatMy favourite base coat, Dr. LeWinn's Renunail Nail Strengthener it's a great strengthener. When used regularly, the nails are a lot harder and grow quicker. I'm always repurchasing this.
7. Cuticle CareSally Hansen Vitasurge Cuticle Gel, an orange gel that can be applied onto the cuticles and dry nail colour, it instantly dries so if you need to take any images afterwards its ideal as the orange doesn't leave colour. I've read that on fair skin it can leave a slight orange tinge so I wouldn't say to put this on a white or pastel nail polish. The sponge applicator is ok to apply it around the cuticles but it's probably not my favourite. Nailtiques Cuticle Care Oil, being this is a dry oil, it won't leave your nails feeling greasy, it is one that's best to be used nightly to get the best benefit. The smell is quite nice but continued use and you'll get the benefit. Dr LeWinn's Nourishing Oil, ingredients olive oil, vitamin E, apricot, almond, tea tree, sweet almond oil and jojoba seed oil, soften hard skin and any cuticle soreness with this. A bit more greasy so it's probably a good one to use alongside handcream. CND Solar Oil, was recommended to me when I started to grow my nails a good few years ago and by habit I keep buying it, the ingredients are sweet almond, jojoba, rice bran and vitamin E oils, might be cheaper to just use those if you've got them! Absorbs nicely and after time keeps the cuticles looking healthy. Nailtiques Oil Therapy is a rollerball pen which means you don't flood your nails with oil and you get just the amount you need and it's an easy one to keep in the handbag for any daily touch ups if needed, this has a blend of sunflower, safflower, avocado and hemp seed oil to help nourish the cuticles.
8. MoisturiseSoap & The Glory Endless Glove, has become a favourite of mine before doing a manicure I sometime use this after I clean and soak the nails to give the moisture back into my hands before doing my routine.I got the gloves in a S&G set but you can find cotton gloves anywhere and can be used with your favourite hand cream. A new one I have is the E45 Repair & Protect*. Which was sent to me and I've tried this a few times and it's not bad, quite nourishing day or night but it really does help to revive any dry or tired hands you might be having.
I'd love to know any favourites you may have?
Rebel Kitchen Chai Mylk this diary free coconut mylks are made up of water, coconut milk, date nectar, cacaco, cinnamon, cardamom, turmeric. A good snack drink pre/post workout. I remember trying the ranges at a vegan convention last year, they are really nice and this one you can really taste the spice and it amazingly tastes quite like chocolate.
Ananda Round Up - omg a vegan wagon wheel! These take me back well not the vegan one but wagon wheels of course I now only eat vegan marshmallows so to be able to divulge with one I'm savouring every 'eat me' moment.
Emily Fruit Crisps Crunchy Banana can I just say the packaging, the packaging of these are gorgeous, it makes me want to have it as a feature wallpaper. No preservatives, no additives, no added sugars, no e numbers and they are gluten-free, the bananas for these crisps are picked at just the ripe moment (groans!) I had a few and shared them with my nan who is a diabetic so it's nice for her to be able to snack on treats and I never saw the packet again...
Angelic Gluten Free Sea Salt Biscuits, as soon as my tongue touched this I got this salt taste and recoiled but decided to give it another taste and it's not so bad, I read sea salt and think nah uh! The gluten free oat round biscuits with just a pinch of sea salt added to it can also be eaten alone or topped with something for an added snack.
TheVeganKind Tote Bag these are so helpful when shopping lol, throw everything in a tote bag and spreading the word as you go, it's a nice sturdy bag, thanks for the shopping addition!
I appreciate these boxes because I'm slowly making this vegan transition, I don't find it as easy as I did when I became a pescitarian but I have noticed I'm limiting myself quite a bit with diary and fish produce lately. This box helps me a great deal as it exposes me to food and snacks that I probably wouldn't know about otherwise, the monthly recipe cards help immensely. You can always find good websites that help, Vegetarian Recipes Mag is an easy website, you could always try doing a Meat Free Monday and gradually transition.
To view these monthly boxes or even subscribe to their Vegan Beauty Box visit TheVeganKind
When I decided to make my own protein conditioner I just did what I usually do and added some extra protein because my hair is seriously lacking in that to the point my ends were not curly at all it might look like an overload but believe me my hair was grateful.
3 egg yolks
2 tbs Mayonnaise
2 tbs Honey
1 tbs Jamaican Black Castor Oil
3 tbs of Extra Virgin Olive Oil
2 tsp Vitamin E
2 tsp Grapeseed Oil
6 drops of Rosemary Essential Oil
• Mayonnaise nourish, moisturise, restore the healthy pH balance and prevents breakage
• EVOO nourish, condition and improve the strength and elasticity also has Vitamin E & Vitamin A within.
• Honey softens and smooths, promotes hair growth and shine.
• Egg Whites removes unwanted oils.
• Egg yolks moisturise dry, brittle hair.
• Rosemary Essential Oil prevent hair loss.
• Grapeseed Oil high in linoleic acid, good against moisture loss.
• Jamaican Black Castor Oil dry brittle hair, hair breakages, dandruff, dry itchy scalp, eczema, thinning hair, alopecia, bald spots it will rapidly increase hair growth.
I put these all in a bowl and whisked them together to get a nice consistency before heating it in the microwave for about 5 - 10 seconds, I gave it a little stir around and applied it onto my 4 sections already parted and pinned up. Put a shower cap on and sat under the hooded dryer for about an hour. You might want to put some type of material headband around your head too, as the mixture will seep and run down the face.
Every time my nan sees my JBCO she keeps saying to me that's not black castor oil and when her aunt came over last September from Jamaica she insisted she will get me some 'real castor oil' the reason they are saying this is because authentic Jamaican Black Castor Oil is dark brown in colour and will also have the traditional burnt smell but that's not to say this castor oil isn't just as good, I suppose it's more marketable. I use this either weekly or every 2 weeks, I don't find it overbearing for my hair and is good for a regular protein treatment.
This protein conditioner can be amended to suit your hairs needs at home or purchased off Amazon. This can be for all hair types just make sure you don't overload it with protein especially if it doesn't need it. When I rinsed this out and continued to condition and set my hair in curlformers (yes, those again!) I was surprised as it dried that it was pretty soft, not cured but it was definitely in a better condition than the previous week.
I think it's been a little while since I last shared any nail polish but now my nails have grown back and at a reasonable length it's time I shared with you, Nailberry 50 Shades.
Grey is the new black? Maybe, I've started to add more grey to my wardrobe as of late and I like the alternative grey can bring. This nail polish from Nailberry is formulated to give your nails the best care while wearing nail polish, free of Formaldehyde, Toluene, DBP and Camphor, also cruelty free.
This colour is described as an Oxygenated sheer Grey black, I'd describe that the base is a satin black with grey that is running through the shade with shimmer. When it hits the light you can really see the dimensions of the shades. This is part of the Naughty Berry collection.
I've now also spotted a few more I'd love to add to the collection such as Noirberry, Stone, Taupe La & Almond. Typical.
What do you think of 50 shades? Have you ever tried anything from Nailberry before?
My bag just got a little more busy with the addition of the Fresh Therapies Nourishing Natural Nail Polish Remover Wipes, since now my nails have grown back wahey! Any little nail emergency must now be tackled head on. Having these for a chip emergency is good. Even when I decide to do my nails last minute and I don't want to hear anyone complain about the smell of nail polish remover, this is a good alternative as it doesn't have a nasty scent to it. Quite the opposite it,s CITRUS! My favourite scent. I try to make sure I use the wipe for more than a chip emergency and if I can't paint the chipped nail, I'd rather take them all off and one sachet towel can do all nails.
White Rabbit Skincare Comfort Cleansing Balm - complete with flannel. I love that, I've become a flannel lover and swear by using it for wiping away crap off my face when cleansing. Simply use a small piece on dry skin and massage it in and cover the face until satisfied, soak your flannel in tepid water and wring it out and wash the cleanser off. I adore how soft it is on the face, giving the face some moisture whilst cleansing it, carrying a calming scent even when wiped away the face feels as if it's kept the moisture. Ingredients : utyrospermum Parkii (Shea Butter) Fruit, Ricinus Communis (Castor) Seed Oil, Olea Europaea (Olive) Fruit Oil, Olea Europa - Tocopherol (Olive Wax), Rosmarinus Officinalis (Rosemary) Leaf Oil, Eucalyptus Globulus (Eucalyptus) Leaf Oil & Lavandula Angustifolia (Lavender) Oil.
Getting these Hedgerow Herbals Bath Bags made me giggle as I've not long started to do this with black tea in a tea bag and brewing it into my bath so getting these were such a nice bonus. I've grown to really love the Hedgerow Herbal's, I'm currently browsing products to buy now, things are so pocket friendly. The brand currently have these bath bags for sleeping, chilling out and there was romance but it looks to be discontinued. Ingredients are oatmeal, lavender and lemon balm, I'm looking forward to using these in conjunction to my wind down in the evenings.
Here's a sample of the Premae Skincare Mild Dermabrasion Face & Body Scrub, I love scrubs because I do suffer from pigmentation I feel I can be a little addict. I'm always wanting to make sure dead skin is gone. I've used this once and it's not bad, I can't give a full review on this but as it does have small granules that help to shed the dead skin but not strip it. Doesn't feel drying so the new skin is being kept in a moisturised way while removing dead skin cells.
Olivia Soaps and Balms Chocolate and Coconut Body Butter Upon opening this body butter, I was so amazed at how rich the chocolate smell was, yes this smelt like raw cocoa, no doubt about that. Smells rich, goes on smoothly, absorbed nicely and leaves the skin feeling silky and hydrated. The scent lasted noticeably on my skin for probably an hour roughly but when I remembered to touch how my skin felt 5 hours later it still felt smooth, I'm impressed. Ingredients: Cocos Nucifera (Coconut) Oil, Orbignya Oleifera (Babassu) Seed Oil, Theobroma Cacao (Cocoa) Seed Butter, Olea Europaea (Olive Wax), Persea Gratissima (Avocado) Oil, Tocopherol (Vitamin E), Cetyl alcohol.
I definitely didn't mind this Vegan Beauty Box, I've previously been introduced to certain brands previously with TheVeganKind monthly boxes. It's definitely great to have that Vegan option with products and if they work, why not make the switch? The Beauty Box is something they do for £15 every 3 months, February, May, August and November. Interested? Head on over to TheVeganKind
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